actually i find that weird completely since my character was never affected by +server from when the merge happened i was able to change one of my characters names who was not in the server merge at all (shes in alexnia server) yet i cannot even change another characters name in the same account what it has listed as to what to be sure you are not involved in to change the name and she has those requirements but still cannot change the name
You essentially got a coupon for every character that got a server tag, but the "coupon" didn't have to be used on that specific character. So if you had 2 characters that got +Server tagged, then you were allowed to change the name of any two characters on your account. After that, your name change coupons were used up.
I'm guessing that's what happened to you? Sorry, a bit hard to figure out what you mean with your message.
If you're not one of the players who was affected by a +[Server] tag, then you're not eligible for a name change. You'll have to wait for the Name Change Coupons to hit the Store at some point in the near (yet ever so distant) future.