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Making friends

InaIna
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edited May 1, 2017 in General Chat
I've been playing mabi for a few months now and I've really wanted to be able to get more social and have some friends in the game .v. I got super lucky and someone talked to me when I first started playing and we became pretty good friends, they just tend to be busy most of the time so im not able to play with them much. Which lead me to really want to try to make some other friends in game. My main issue though is my wicked social anxiety that makes it terribly hard to get the motivation to talk to anyone at all.

so i guess i just sort of want some kind of tips to be able to chat with other people?? what are the easiest ways to find friendly players and such, how you found the friends you made while playing ;v;

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  • OpalthiraOpalthira
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    Well it might help to list your name and server so people can find you from the forums. :)
  • InaIna
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    Oh true I guess that would be a start haha :V
    i hadnt put much use into the forums since i made my account a week ago i think???? so that didn't pass my mind
    i sorta have two characters, one on Alexina (Lavendria) and Ruairi (Esmiden) .v. i tend to be much more active on alexina though
  • badnewsbarrettbadnewsbarrett
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    My suggestion would be to start by joining a guild, you could try to find a small one if your anxiety makes it hard to be part of a big one. You can talk to people there, and I think it's easy to make friends that way.

    If you're on Facebook you could also check to see if your server has any groups you could join. You can post in there saying you're looking for a guild, or leave your username and ask active people to add you. Tarlach has a group like that, and I see people doing it there all the time.

    If you don't have FB you could always check the forums here for your specific server and ultimately do the same thing :)
  • OpalthiraOpalthira
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    I'm on Alexina, I don't do much though more concentrated on building my homestead right now.
    But I can give you a sword if you use them.
  • GretaGreta
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    Many events helped me to find some new friends, but since we lately got too many afk/solo events then my suggestion is useless for now. But yeah, if we get events where players need to gather around and be active then you can use that as a chance to meet new people :D
  • BlissfulkillBlissfulkill
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    Liyeta wrote: »
    My tips:
    Make a dungeon party
    Then put
    LF>Friends.

    I had a bit too much trouble with some of them. From my experience, half of those advertising do not have friends for a good reason. Damn depressed twelve year olds hitting on my perfect elf waifu.
    Greta
  • NegumikoNegumiko
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    Greta wrote: »
    Many events helped me to find some new friends, but since we lately got too many afk/solo events then my suggestion is useless for now. But yeah, if we get events where players need to gather around and be active then you can use that as a chance to meet new people :D

    it can be tough talking to anyone even if you are around a large group of people. some people just don't talk much at all cause they simply can't do it most of the time. but I agree with Greta, just spend time in event areas and even if you say nothing you might get a few random friend requests or players will randomly talk to you :)
    Greta
  • BlissfulkillBlissfulkill
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    edited May 2, 2017
    Liyeta wrote: »
    Liyeta wrote: »
    My tips:
    Make a dungeon party
    Then put
    LF>Friends.

    I had a bit too much trouble with some of them. From my experience, half of those advertising do not have friends for a good reason. Damn depressed twelve year olds hitting on my perfect elf waifu.

    Oo i have similar experience. Im in game single parent with one daughter. One day when i hang out with my in game daughter a person come up to us and started joining the conversation. Since he seems friendly we just let him join and we talk merrily.

    But then my in game daughter have to go afk. Dont want to keep the silent for too long i start talking to the person. To my surprise he start talking arrogantly, hinting that it is pointless to talk to me and then he said brb to play osu.

    When my in game daughter come back the person also come back and started talking happily again. After that he asked to run some sm. So we went along with him. We did the run normally and in the middle of the run my in game daughter introduce me to the person as her in game parent. That person lost his cool and started talking to me very respectfully.

    We did some more run and at the end of the day he actually ask if he can marry my in game daughter. Yup… well my in game daughter said ask my parent then i said sure if you have master polimath talent then you can marry my in game daughter. Well he dont and after that day me and my in game daughter never heard from him again. The end.

    Now back to the topic. LF>friend actually work fine for me. I usually use one in off channel and got relatively normal peeps. Take it as a sign for anyone that are not busy that day feel free to talk to me kind of thing. Though there was one time that i was unaware then got tossed in a middle of erp.

    Let me guess, you appeared low leveled while he was high leveled?

    People really need to realize that superiority is not a moral right to treat others beneath your consideration, especially when that inferiority is concentrated in a freaking video game, of all things.

    I was specifically referring to a certain type of people most known for "Searching" for friends, which can run the gamut from lechery, complainers, and those who would spam Altruist Requests looking for a completed book of Fireball.

    I stated half, out of my ass, but also because some of those people are genuinely nice.

    Edit: I Have a Master Polymath title, so you know, if your daughter is interested in an onii chan, then...


    o:)
  • XiokunXiokun
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    Liyeta wrote: »
    Liyeta wrote: »
    My tips:
    Make a dungeon party
    Then put
    LF>Friends.

    I had a bit too much trouble with some of them. From my experience, half of those advertising do not have friends for a good reason. Damn depressed twelve year olds hitting on my perfect elf waifu.

    Oo i have similar experience. Im in game single parent with one daughter. One day when i hang out with my in game daughter a person come up to us and started joining the conversation. Since he seems friendly we just let him join and we talk merrily.

    But then my in game daughter have to go afk. Dont want to keep the silent for too long i start talking to the person. To my surprise he start talking arrogantly, hinting that it is pointless to talk to me and then he said brb to play osu.

    When my in game daughter come back the person also come back and started talking happily again. After that he asked to run some sm. So we went along with him. We did the run normally and in the middle of the run my in game daughter introduce me to the person as her in game parent. That person lost his cool and started talking to me very respectfully.

    We did some more run and at the end of the day he actually ask if he can marry my in game daughter. Yup… well my in game daughter said ask my parent then i said sure if you have master polimath talent then you can marry my in game daughter. Well he dont and after that day me and my in game daughter never heard from him again. The end.

    Now back to the topic. LF>friend actually work fine for me. I usually use one in off channel and got relatively normal peeps. Take it as a sign for anyone that are not busy that day feel free to talk to me kind of thing. Though there was one time that i was unaware then got tossed in a middle of erp.

    That is the most drama I ever heard of for Mabi. :U I never had anything like that happen with me. But about the "depressed twelve year olds"... yeah, it's a shame but I've encountered very many. Some I couldn't tell if there was really something wrong with them allll the time, or they were acting for attention. Either way I treated them all the same; I offered condolences and time to talk with them and when I felt like I just wasn't enough, I recommended they had some time with friends, family, or if they're really having concerns of having depression to see a doctor or psychiatrist.
  • UberchaoUberchao
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    edited May 2, 2017
    I have three ways to go about it, and I didn't even realize it for a bit.

    1. Just talk. Enter conversations when you see them, or find something to complain and rant about and people will talk to you as well. A common thing for me to do is outright complement someone if they have good fashion sense, either in their whole ensemble or if they've done something creative and unique with a certain part of it. Like a guy who wears a trinity robe with black secondary color on it, and then wears black wings with it, looks as if he's enchanted his own robe to make the wing designs on it come to life. I thought that was clever as hell when I saw it.
    In this way, you might also end up befriending someone of exceptionally good taste.

    2. Make a purchase. This isn't something I do to make friends, but there's usually some kind of two-way communication going when I make a big purchase on something. And sometimes the seller is a really nice person. Everyone expects to get lowballed in this game, so I sometimes will do the opposite and go possibly a bit above market price if I can afford it, especially if it seems like the person is in great need of money or is selling something that used to be dear to them. This might be terrible advice though, admittedly I'm a naive sap when it comes to this stuff. Anyway, if you think the seller's a cool guy, be generous in your offer and they'll know it without you saying anything further. But sometimes just the talk beforehand is enough, so whatever.

    3. Be generally loud and outspoken. Make your own distinct identity with your words and the way you act, even roleplay a character. If you wear an Ogre Crown and go around speaking like a barbaric orc-lady people will recognize you instantly. If you wear exclusively neon-blue attire and act out a larger-than-life figure who rules over Dunbarton, speaking in an enthusiastic way towards others, people will know your name at a glance. And even if you don't want to do either of these, just speaking once in a while in public, chances are you'll become known simply through playing for a long time. People will recognize you when they see you in their Shadow Mission parties multiple times, or trade with you on different occasions, or hear you playing their favorite weeb-songs at every banquet, etc. The more well-known you are, the more people will simply send you requests themselves. Even if your words are controversial, as this will only make it easier for certain people to see you as an ally.

    I realize this post probably lacks a lot of cohesion, as I tend to ramble, but take from it what you will.
    Policroma
  • GretaGreta
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    edited May 2, 2017
    I lately noticed a huge tendency from some players who randomly try to make new friends only for hopes of getting free "stuff". They like to target rich and strong looking players, trying to communicate with them as much as possible while asking random questions like what are you doing and such. They also try to point out that they are bored/have nothing to do and proceeds to ask same questions, kinda hinting that they want to hang out or they need easy help. At least that's what happened to me lately. After i got some latest fashion stuff and started to afk in ch1 public places, i noticed getting a huge attention from random players. I guess i understand now why some players avoid ch1 lol.
  • XiokunXiokun
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    Greta wrote: »
    I lately noticed a huge tendency from some players who randomly try to make new friends only for hopes of getting free "stuff". They like to target rich and strong looking players, trying to communicate with them as much as possible while asking random questions like what are you doing and such. They also try to point out that they are bored/have nothing to do and proceeds to ask same questions, kinda hinting that they want to hang out or they need easy help. At least that's what happened to me lately. After i got some latest fashion stuff and started to afk in ch1 public places, i noticed getting a huge attention from random players. I guess i understand now why some players avoid ch1 lol.

    I never had that happened to me... maybe once? :S What am I missing on Mabi?! Maybe I'm just too busy making stuff and training on my homestead.
  • UberchaoUberchao
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    Xiokun wrote: »

    I never had that happened to me... maybe once? :S What am I missing on Mabi?! Maybe I'm just too busy making stuff and training on my homestead.

    Depends whether or not your character's a girl really. People be thirsty.
    GretaHumiliating
  • BlissfulkillBlissfulkill
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    Uberchao wrote: »
    Xiokun wrote: »

    I never had that happened to me... maybe once? :S What am I missing on Mabi?! Maybe I'm just too busy making stuff and training on my homestead.

    Depends whether or not your character's a girl really. People be thirsty.

    Are you saying the big, muscle bounded and fabulous sexy giant Xiokun has to be a girl to get this kind of attention? Hogwash. Anymore sexy and no one will be able walk ten feet without dying from that holy/unholy sight.
    GretaXiokunHumiliating
  • XiokunXiokun
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    Uberchao wrote: »
    Xiokun wrote: »

    I never had that happened to me... maybe once? :S What am I missing on Mabi?! Maybe I'm just too busy making stuff and training on my homestead.

    Depends whether or not your character's a girl really. People be thirsty.

    Oh, I forgot. I went as a female character for about a month and everyone begged for me to adopt them. Then I went back to male because being a girl wasn't as cute for me being a guy in an Eluned Detective outfit or Bunny Parka.
  • UberchaoUberchao
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    Are you saying the big, muscle bounded and fabulous sexy giant Xiokun has to be a girl to get this kind of attention? Hogwash. Anymore sexy and no one will be able walk ten feet without dying from that holy/unholy sight.

    Wait, so he's a Giant? Well then I have no idea, people must just have bad taste.
    Unless his fashion sense is poor, that's always a possibility.
  • ShouKShouK
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    I have only made friends when I was a newbie. Many random players initiated conversation and helped me. I don't know when though, but probably after I started paying attention to my appearance and using better talent titles, I rarely found someone that talked to me anymore... now it's usually just random people that needs help that initiated the conversation.

    And out of those, I can only really get along with 2 players who's btw, the one I like the most, apparently only coincidentally active when I just joined Mabi..so he went poof afterwards and rarely online.

    So I'm solonogi for life now

    Greta
  • XiokunXiokun
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    Uberchao wrote: »
    Are you saying the big, muscle bounded and fabulous sexy giant Xiokun has to be a girl to get this kind of attention? Hogwash. Anymore sexy and no one will be able walk ten feet without dying from that holy/unholy sight.

    Wait, so he's a Giant? Well then I have no idea, people must just have bad taste.
    Unless his fashion sense is poor, that's always a possibility.

    POOR FASHION SENSE???? POOR FASHION SENSE!? -TRIGGERED-
    HOMIE PLEASE.
    IM FABULOUS. *flips hair* Get on my level, world, cuz you ain't ready for this yet. >u>

    You must not know me yet so I'll introduce myself with this self portrait.
    xiokun_in_a_scathach_dress___mabinogi_by_hackeraxe-db4aqdt.png
    Nice to meet you.


    Though on topic I think I don't encounter people like that not just because of my in game gender, but maybe because when people ask for help regardless of the reason, as long as I'm not busy training, I go help. Fliiiiirting though? From strangers, nah. Everyone's pretty normal.
    UberchaoGretaInaYokkaichiHumiliatingBlissfulkill
  • UberchaoUberchao
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    Xiokun wrote: »

    You must not know me yet so I'll introduce myself with this self portrait.

    Heavens to betsy. Yeah I'm not sure then, it seems to me people would be all over that. It's certainly unique.
  • NilremNilrem
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    I always prefer to just give advice to new players, or help them with story quests.

    They often don't have friends yet, and it helps them get settled into the game.

    In general though, as long as you speak to others and are not rude, you can easily make friends.
    Banquet is a great time for such as well, just find a talkative table with an open seat.
    You will meet all sorts of people.

    That, and I often have fun with the fact I'm a giant that looks like a succubus, and then whenever someone hits on me I mentioned I married a player after beating him to death with a giant log in a duel.
    The reactions tend to be amusing.
    And sometimes leads to a humorous friendship.
    UberchaoGretaKingEphyOptoid